Online Dating: The Other Person’s Shoes Principle
By Stephanie Constantina For online dating and many other areas of life there is a useful principle that can be applied in many different ways, so leading to much greater success than would otherwise be the case. What is it? This principle is simply the idea of putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. At first sight this may not seem exceptional or revolutionary, but used correctly it can make all the difference. The idea of “putting yourself in the other person’s shoes” may be used in many areas of online dating, and in fact in many areas outside online dating too. Take for example the writing of a dating profile (when singles sign up to an online dating service typically they will fill in a ‘profile’ about themselves which will be used to advertise them to other members). Once you have written your draft dating profile, if you can then distance yourself from it mentally and put yourself in the shoes of other people you will have a much greater understanding of how effective your profile is likely to be than otherwise. If you can look at your own profile with fresh eyes in this way you will immediately spot whether it will attract other people or not, and so you will be able to rewrite it accordingly. The same principle of putting yourself in the other person’s shoes can also be applied once you are in contact with other singles at the online dating sites. When you come to e-mail other singles you need to be able to see whether your messages are blatantly boring or will be looked forward to with relish. If you can place yourself in the mindset of the recipient you will have a much better chance of achieving this. Again in the offline dating process itself, putting yourself into the shoes of the other person is essential for success — both yours and theirs. Being able to see if you are the kind of date someone would love to have or just someone they would like to get rid of as soon as possible is clearly important. Not only in dating but in the whole ongoing relationship, the ‘other person’s shoes’ principle is vital. Clearly, if you are always considerate towards your dating partner, if you think about his or her needs and put yourself out to please him or her, you will be much closer to a successful relationship. But in online dating or elsewhere in life, do not apply the ‘other person’s shoes’ principle cynically. Learn to genuinely care about the other person’s feelings. Learn to care too about other people in general, and not only will your online dating be more successful but through this approach you will have a successful recipe for life too. Resources: Find out more in a valuable free ebook available at Free Dating and Relationships Ebook. Stephanie Constantina is a dating sector author for Single Dating. You are granted permission to use this article in your web site or ezine provided you do not change anything, keeping the links, anchor text and Resources intact. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Stephanie_Constantina http://EzineArticles.com/?Online-Dating:-The-Other-Persons-Shoes-Principle&id=435147 ambien pillow ambien and alcohol ambien 99 zolpidem canada 150s
